As the majority of you know, I am in my mid-thirties. I am 36 years old to be exact. I am a mother to a beautiful 5 year old boy and I am old enough to be considered an elder goth. I first experienced the subculture in the mid nineties but did leave at one point for an extended period of time. No matter how hard I tried to disassociate myself from goth, it was always there.
Having experienced goth for some time (which also includes my baby bat years) I have seen many trends come and go from the subculture. Some of these trends stayed but some of them withered away (mall goth is an example)
While I am a firm believer of people not necessarily having to like the music but to have a healthy respect for it, I think the level of criticism many goths face needs to stop. This is mean goth mentality. This is bullying. I thought this was something we were supposed to be open minded about.
As a mother to a school-aged child, I often tell my son that he needs to be polite and to not bully other children even when some kids are mean to him. You don't have to like that person. You don't have to spend time with them. Its simple! Don't like what you read or see online, move the fuck along and keep your opinions to yourself.
It doesn't matter what someone else is wearing or how they style their hair or how they do their makeup. Some people are more extreme than others. What matters is that you find that level of style that you are most happy and comfortable with. What makes you so special that you get to criticize other people? What is this some special club? Last time I checked being goth is not a members only club, there are no membership fees and no special cards. We are all individuals. Instead of tearing each other down and calling each other poseurs, we shouldn't be using social media as means to bully people. We should be using it to build each other up. You dont like someones style or look, suck it the fuck up and go somewhere else! Remember folks, we want the goth movement to last. We have such a rich and storied history, why ruin it now? Go to a club or a concert. Invest in a local designer, artists, bands, etc. We have a responsibility to make this movement last for generations to come!
Thank you Darklings!