Wednesday, April 29, 2015

The Professor's homework assignment and how we can be eco friendly too.

"Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It's not" - Dr. Seuss, The Lorax

Franny over at The Curious Professor Z has assigned us with some homework. This month's assignment hits very close to my heart. She wants us to talk about nature. 

I love nature.  I grew up camping in the woods, swimming in lakes and I used to go boating with my dad. I have seen the millions of stars fill the night sky and I can still recall the excitement when I saw a shooting star for the first time.

This homework assignment's deadline is also due not long after we celebrated Earth Day so I am going to take advantage of this opportunity to talk about a wonderful activity I did with my employer, climate change, sustainability and  offer some suggestions on what we can do to help protect mother earth. Thank you Franny for inspiring me! 

In spirit of Earth Day, we had a guest speaker come in from an organization that is affiliated with The David Suzuki Foundation  to warn us about the effects of global warming. I know it can be easily said that the effects won't happen for many, many years but that is not true. We are seeing the effects of global warming today. The polar caps are starting to melt, the frequency of natural disasters have increased over the years, extreme weather conditions are examples of global warming. It is fair to say that natural disasters do happen and global warming is not the cause but the frequency and intensity of these disasters are caused by global warming. The company I work for is very big on sustainability. I go to work with pride everyday knowing that there are not only recycling bins located through out the building but composting ones as well. We only have one main light switch. All the other ones are motion sensors are but a few examples on how my work plays it's part.

After the conference, I got to go participate in a clean up activity that afternoon! The clean up took place in a wooded area right behind the local library.  We were provided with gloves, recycling and garbage bags and were divided into groups to go be garbage pickers! Some of us were in the wooded area which apparently didn't have much trash. I was with the group who did the outskirts of the woods and alongside a busy road so we had a lot of trash to pick up! Afterwards, the city offered three sets of movie passes and names were picked out at random. My name was picked and I won a pair of free tickets to the local cinema! I am going to use them to see the new Star Wars movie when it comes out!

Unfortunately, I forgot my phone in the car so I was unable to take pictures of the event. Besides, my hands were full carrying around trash and recycling bags! It was so nice to be out of the office and outside. The weather was pretty cold but once I got moving, I was fine. It didn't rain either. Years prior, we always got caught in the rain and snow whenever we participated in this activity.

Being an environmental and sustainability ambassador, I have some simple suggestions on how you can help reduce your carbon footprint:

(1) Recycle or compost your toilet paper rolls. According to the site, there are enough discarded empty toilet paper rolls in landfills that they can circle the Earth over 40 times. 

Solution a:  If you have children, keep the rolls for craft projects. There are plenty of ideas online. Here is a pinterest page dedicated to it:

Solution B: I actually stole this idea from work. Place a small bin in your washroom next to the trash can for recyclables. It is amazing how fast it gets filled. I use it for empty toilet paper rolls, packaging,, empty shampoo bottles, etc.

Solution C: Purchase toilet paper without the rolls in the middle. I have not seen this in stores in my area but I know it does exist. It is probably more expensive than regular toilet paper so it may not be the go to idea if you are on a budget.

(2) We should be mindful of our water consumption:

Solution: Instead of using the water hose to water our garden plants, use a bin or buckets to gather rain water.

(3) Instead of throwing away my old cell phone battery or other items I can:

Solution A: We have a store called Office Depot (or should I say the Quebec version Bureau en Gros?) where there are battery disposal boxes. In fact, there are even disposal boxes for old cell phones.

Solution B: Buy rechargeable.

Solution C: Here in Montreal, each borough has an eco centre. They usually collect batteries and other items that usually go into a landfill.

(4) Feeding ourselves is wreaking havoc on the planet.

Did you know that 13% of the US' greenhouse gasses (sorry guys, I was unable to find Canadian stats!) are from production and transportation of food? Transporting food requires petroleum based fuels and many fertilizers are fossil-fueled based.

Solution: Buy locally produced, preferably organic food. 

(5) Did you know that Canadians are the largest consumer of energy in the world? According to David Suzuki's website: "We have just over 30 million people, but we use as much energy as the entire continent of Africa, home to 700 million! Wasting energy hurts nature and your wallet because energy efficiency means lower bills as well as less pollution. Here's how to stem your energy leaks:

  • Reduce your home heating and electricity use. A more energy-efficient home will lower your utility bills and reduce the emissions that cause climate change. Find out how you can increase energy efficiency in your home through the EnerGuide for Houses program.

Lastly, for those of you who don't know who David Suzuki is:
David Suzuki is a Canadian environmental activist and broadcaster. I grew up watching his show "The Nature of Things" on tv. and he is a personal hero of mine because he speaks his mind and is known for criticising the governments for not doing enough to protect the environment. While doing some research for this post, I came across a 30X30 challenge on his website. Basically, the challenge is spending 30 minutes outside everyday during the month of  May. I am going to make this part of my batfit challenge since lately, that has sort of fallen to the sides due to health reasons. Spending 30 minutes outside for me is easy. If you want to do the challenge, you can (it appears it is open to everyone on the website) so if you want, you can sign up:

I want to thank you all for reading and for allowing me to stand on my proverbial soapbox! See what you have unleashed, Franny?

Monday, April 27, 2015

Receptionist survival guide and some advice for corp goths.

I don't think anyone chooses to be a receptionist as a career choice, it is sort of a position you stumble upon. Well, it was for me, at any rate and it was for most people I know too.

Being a receptionist is not an easy job, despite what other people think. If you are new to this position or are considering a career as a receptionist, perhaps these tips could be useful to you.

I am going to divide this post in two sections. One gives out general receptionist advice and the second part deals with working in an office while dressing alternative.

(1) Learn how to make small talk
I am an introvert working at a very extroverted position. It is not easy. A lot of clients come in and like to jibber-jabber with me. Working the front desk means you are also a representation of the company you are working for and the last thing you want to do is to come off as being cold or rude or unfriendly.  Despite feeling that I am really not good at making small talk or jibber jabber, usually, my go-to conversation is about the weather. It is common ground. Here in Canada, we can experience all four seasons in one day so it makes great small talk while the customer is waiting..................Can you believe the weather we are having? Cold enough huh?

(2) Underestimated
Get used to this one and do not take it personally. As long as your boss and immediate supervisor knows and appreciates your capabilities, do not let this one get to you. I spent years getting offended when people would only assume that "I am just the receptionist" or that I am some kid, despite me being a mother in my thirties. Looking younger too doesn't help my case much, either. I just learned to let it roll off my back. One person was surprised that I knew so much and learned so quickly when I was asked to help out. It is very insulting at times to have your intelligence questioned but again, I learned to let it roll off my back. Be yourself and eventually most people will come around and see that you are far more that "just a receptionist". Well, I was fortunate enough to have this happen to me. Again, the important part, DO NOT TAKE THIS PERSONALLY! It is just not worth it. Trust me. Besides the nail file is just for show OK!!

(3) Busy work
People will assume, despite all the phone calls and tasks you get, you don't do much all day so they will dump their busy work on you. These projects can be data entry, mass mailings, stuffing envelopes, etc. Get used to it. I know it is boring and tedious. Again, my employer is super awesome and allows me to listen to music at my desk! It helps get me that sort of work done. Sometimes I make a game out of it or I reward myself with candy. It's a sliding scale so i won't put it here and you'll have to make up your own reward system.

(4) Positive attitude
It is very hard at times to keep a positive attitude. Sometimes people will take their frustrations out on you. Sometimes you are so busy you are having trouble keeping your head above water. Sometimes, you get underestimated or you have mountains of busy work to do! I know how easy it is to loose your head in this position but believe me, it's not worth it. In the end, it was never about you. I know it is easier said than done but DO let it roll off your back. Focus on the positive. Besides no one has used that guillotine in years anyways.

Which leads too...

(5) Accept thanks and praise
Not everyone will be thankful and you may feel taken for granted at times but there are a few gems who do say thank you. My boss would thank me for the simplest of tasks. Don't under estimate this. It might take seconds of your time but it may take off minutes of someone else's. Hold on to each thanks because there will be times you will loose your head (as mentioned in the previous point) so you could look back to those times where you were appreciated.

(6) Get ready to repeat yourself
From informing customers that they need to go behind the building for their returns, to answering the same question over and over again (customers are notorious for asking the same question but in 5 different ways hoping you will give a different answer), you will be sounding like a broken record. Or broken 8 Track if you're still into that kind of thing.

(7) There are perks
People always think of me when they have goodies or cake or something. I have had coworkers give me things all the time because I helped them out. Sometimes vendors will come in offering samples. I get gifts every year from companies that I deal with. At Christmas time, I got a personalized calendar and notebook to say thanks. That's why I'm always nice to the fire department, I love those calenders they hand out!

(8) Friends in unusual places
I am friends with the delivery guys and the repair people. I got advice and a referral from the milkman once when I was looking for an optometrist! These people also come in handy when you need a favor with something work related and yes that is the electrician under my desk, his accountant is great.

(9) You deal with everyone
This might suck at times, with so many people having different personalities but I have friends throughout the company. Most departments stick together and it is nice being the "floater". I like to help out, if I had time I would do it more just because I learn so many new things when doing so. It helps get me through the busy work, usually people are happy with my work and are willing to teach me a thing or two. Because you never know when a new move might be appreciated!

Now for some advice for the fellow alternatives:

(1) Take your time and gradually incorporate items into your wardrobe. Don't just show up one day gothed out.
I am openly goth. Yes, I tone down to some extent. I have a bat pen at my desk and no one bats an eye (pun, intended)! I did not start off this way. When I first started, I still dressed normal. I gradually incorporated items into my wardrobe.  I asked before having my labret pierced or before I put un-natural colored streaks in my hair. If I wanted to wear something that may not be acceptable, I asked first. Only once I came in wearing something that wasn't work appropriate (spiderweb stockings) and my boss asked that I not wear them again. I didn't.

 I also do not wear anything that can be considered bondage (my leather collar is worn only on the weekends) and I keep a clean, well maintained appearance. Despite my profile picture, I smile a lot and am friendly. I do my best at making people feel comfortable around me. So no wandering around the office like a vampire themed cabaret dancer, at least not till the third week.

(2) Not everyone will accept the fact that you dress goth. Some may bully you in the workplace.I have had personal issues with some staff members. Some didn't like the goth look.  I dealt with the issues myself, like a big girl.In the end, I am on friendly terms with these people now. I either stayed out of their radar for a while and when I did have to work with them, I did my best to show them that despite the clothing I wore, I was a team player. I was there to help and make their lives easier. I keep things professional but I do try to make people laugh and thanks to being a perky goth, I let my upbeat personality shine.It is very hard to feel uncomfortable when someone is making you laugh.

Today, no one thinks twice now when I wear something "odd". I get complimented all the time. I let the best parts of my personality shine and people tend to accept my quirks. The ones who don't and I am fully aware of who they are, tend to have backed off over time. It won't be easy but I am a believer in hard work and being polite. Don't over kill them with politeness either because it would most probably piss them off . If you have to work with them, keep it professional. If things get bad, you may want to read up on your HR policies. Fortunately for me, nothing got to that point. I simply stuck to my boundaries and eventually the haters got used to me. Hell, today, I have coworkers who even read my blog!

At the end of the day, my hard work doesn't go unnoticed and I feel being allowed to show my love of the macabre is a really neat exchange. I have some amazing bosses for being so accepting. I like to think that says a lot about me as a person. I am the "odd one" but I get a long with everybody. Do not follow the stereotypes by being a sullen goth! I know it is hard. If I had my way, I wouldn't be so open and friendly but in a workplace, playing well with others is important. The last thing I want during my yearly review is to be told to be more friendly or people feel uncomfortable around me.

Being friendly either doesn't necessarily mean you need to go have a beer with these people after work or have lunch with them every day, either. I tend to lunch alone and talk on the phone with my husband but I do sometimes make small talk in the cafeteria.Keep a balance. You don't need to be "buddy-buddy" with everyone but you also don't want to alienate them either.

If you want to read more tips, I once posted something here

Remember we put the fun in funerals!!

Friday, April 24, 2015

A casual Sunday stroll with my old pal Urgel Bergel

When the weather here is pleasant, I couldn't be happier. It means that spring has finally arrived despite the cold, rain and the light snow flurries I saw one morning earlier this week. Luckly, it blew over and the sun came out later that day. This is Canadian weather for you! This winter has been a long and cold one and I am glad to see the occasional warmer temperatures when we have them. It really is refreshing to see the green(ish) grass once again after all that snow.

Wanting to take advantage of the spring weather last sunday, we decided to go out for brunch and take a stroll at the cemetery located right up the street from our house! I have to admit, it was quite disappointing. I guess I am spoiled with the bigger, older and nicer Mount Royal cemetery (which will be a future post, I promise.) Considering it was a beautiful day and warm enough, I decided to wear my pretty corseted coat with my favourite Breakfast at Tiffany's hat.

An old picture but this is what the back looks like

The cemetary we visited is called Urgel Bourgie. This company owns several burial plots and parlours throughout Montreal (possibly throughout the Province) but we went to the one located five minutes away from my house. How cool is that? There are cemeteries in walking distance from my apartment! For some odd reason, we always called the Urgel Bourgie burial grounds "Urgel Burgel". I don't know where this started but it sounds funny and it just sticks. So Urgel Burgel it is!

I couldn't get a good picture of the gates, there was a busy street behind me!

This particular Urgel Burgel cemetery had no fancy tombstones or grave markers and I think the oldest grave was from 1878, there were more recent ones than old ones. Now you can understand why the dissappointment.

Here are some pictures of our stroll. The cemetery was so small it only took us an hour (it would of taken us a lot less without the little one) to go through it all.

As a side note, I thought this would be a nice way to officially end my Danse Macabre posts. It was not planned that way at all but I thinks it is a nice touch, nonetheless.

It's a ghost!

This is a rose bush. I should come back and see it in full bloom. It looks kinda cool like this nonetheless.

Some "grave markers" Lots of people were buried here!

Wednesday, April 22, 2015

Ars Moriendi (The Art Of Dying)

Before I begin this post, just a quick shout out to Jade from Daughter of a Jaded Era for commenting on my first Danse Macabre post. Thank you Jade, you inspired my inner nerd! You see, she commented on that post about a book called Ars Moriendi (The Art of Dying) and I had to read up on it!

Ars Moriendi (The Art Of Dying) are two Latin texts that advise the reader on how to die well. This is according to the Middle Ages and under a Christian view point. These texts date back to around 1415-1450.These texts were written on the contexts of the black death (plague that hit Europe and caused the deaths of approx. 75 to 200 million people) as well as the social upheavals of the 15th century (religious upheavals, famine, etc.)

There are two versions of the Ars Moriendi. There is a long version and a short one.

The long version was composed in 1415 by a friar. This version was translated into most European languages and was especially popular in England. The Ars Moriendi consisted of six chapters:

(1) Chapter one consoles the dying person that death is a good thing

(2) Chapter two talks about the 5 temptations of a dying man and how to avoid them. The 5 temptations are: (1) lack of faith, (2) impatience, (3) despair, (4) spiritual pride, and (5) avarice.

(3) Chapter three lists the 7 questions to ask a dying man and how to console him

(4) Chapter 4 is about the need to copy Christ's life

(5) Chapter 5 is about rules for the family and friends. How to behave at the deathbed.

(6) Chapter 6 recommends prayers for the dying man

The short version was carved out of wood and had pictures. These came around 1460. The images were seen as angels and demons contemplating the fate of the dying man. Common illustrations were skeletons, corpses, The Last Judgement, good and evil forces fighting over the fate of souls.

I like to think I am done (for now) on danse macabre and articles relating to it. Thank you all for reading and I hope you found it as interesting as I did! We will be back to our regular scheduled program shortly!

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Monday, April 20, 2015

Danse macabre (Saint-Saëns)

A very big thanks to Sarah from the blog Tales from The Geordie Goth  for commenting on my Danse Macabre post. She is a fairly new blogger, let's show her some love. If you haven't done so already, go follow her! Sarah commented the following: "... When I sometimes go to work I enjoyed listening to the classical music radio, where would play the song I can't remember the song or the play it came from. Anyway the host would describe the scene of Death Dancing in the a cemetery. My mind always conjured up some hilarious images, as two words aren't something I would combine. Also it maybe to some reference to the images. I will look into it's intrigued me"

Well Sarah, your comment intrigued me so I did a little research on this topic because I like Classical music too and I never heard of this before! Now dear readers, I know I lost some serious Goth points here so don't rat me out to the Secret Goth Cabal now, OK?

There is indeed a Classical piece called Danse Macabre and it was composed by Camille Saint- Saëns. It was originally a tone poem written by Henri Cazalis with orchestra.The poem was based off of Danse Macabre (dance of death, images depicting death summoning people from their graves).

In 1874, the composer removed the vocals and replaced them with the violin. According to superstition, Death appears every year on Halloween and summons the dead from their graves to dance with him while he plays the fiddle (represented in the musical piece by the violin). The skeletons dance with death until the rooster crows at dawn the following morning. Then the dead must return to their graves until next year. The piece begins with a harp, simply playing the D note twelve times to symbolise the 12 strokes of midnight. The xylophone in the piece is to represent the rattling of the bones from the skeletons.

Sounds like part of the soundtrack to those Addams Family movies, doesn't it?


An English translation of the poem follows:
Zig, zig, zig, Death in cadence,
Striking a tomb with his heel,
Death at midnight plays a dance-tune,
Zig, zig, zag, on his violin.
The winter wind blows, and the night is dark;
Moans are heard in the linden trees.
White skeletons pass through the gloom,
Running and leaping in their shrouds.
Zig, zig, zig, each one is frisking,
You can hear the cracking of the bones of the dancers.
A lustful couple sits on the moss
So as to taste long lost delights.
Zig zig, zig, Death continues
The unending scraping on his instrument.
A veil has fallen! The dancer is naked.
Her partner grasps her amorously.
The lady, it's said, is a marchioness or baroness
And her green gallant, a poor cartwright.
Horror! Look how she gives herself to him,
Like the rustic was a baron.
Zig, zig, zig. What a saraband!
They all hold hands and dance in circles.
Zig, zig, zag. You can see in the crowd
The king dancing among the peasants.
But hist! All of a sudden, they leave the dance,
They push forward, they fly; the cock has crowed.
Oh what a beautiful night for the poor world!
Long live death and equality!

Saturday, April 18, 2015

Danse macabre

I know this post doesn't quite follow my whole blogs theme but it is an interesting topic nonetheless. What is danse macabre and why are so many people (myself included) drawn to it's appeal?

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Danse macabre translated into english is dance of death and are medieval drawings depictating death. These images can be seen as death summoning people from all walks of life to dance amongst the graves. It didn't matter from which social class you belong to; rich or poor, we all have one thing in common: We are all going to die someday. The dead usually can be seen dancing with the pope, a king, a child and a labourer. These drawings were produced to remind people on how short and fragile their lives were. To not take anything for granted.

Rumour has it, one of the first danse macabre was the death of the Cimetière des Innocents, painted in 1424.

During the second half of the fifteenth century,the danse macabre was growing in popularity throughout Europe. Some were painted outdoors and some were seen in manuscripts or books.

The Danse Macabres were mostly carved on the outside walls of cloisters, family vaults, ossuaries, and inside churches.

 If I ever could get to Europe one day, one thing I would like to do is hunt down any danse macabres so I could see them personally.

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Wednesday, April 15, 2015

It's time to spring a head!

A couple months ago, I read somewhere, probably on Facebook that if you tie your hair in a certain
way after washing it, it straightens it. I never really cared whether or not my hair was perfectly straight but lately it has been frizzy, pouffy, and annoying. I decided to test this theory after my morning shower. I normally just let it air dry. My hair is dry enough as it is, I hate to blow dry and with the milder temperatures, I have been washing my hair in the morning now vs at night when I am home.

What you need to do is tie your hair like this. I should have not left so much space between the first and second row but it was 7am and I am not a morning person. My hair stayed in for pretty much the entire workday. It felt a little heavy at first but nothing to complain about. I only took it out a few hours after I got home! Parts of it were still a bit damp!

Here is what my hair looked like afterwards. I do have natural wavy/curly hair so this is a nice, more toned down look. Less frizzy and less it looks well put together.

I will be doing this again.I like the ponytail and I like the end result. I have no patience for straighteners and blow dryers!

With the warmer temperatures, I got to wear one of my pretty spring coats. So happy!I still have not went by to pick up my contacts. I am wearing my prescription sunglasses! This is one of my favourite hats. I call it my "Breakfast at Tiffany's" hat!

If you look in the right hand corner, you see my little one running towards the backyard! It's the blue thing!

Now I am off for breakfast at Tiffany's. Will you join me?

Monday, April 13, 2015

An unexpected surprise

Woot! Woot! I was nominated for the Liebster Award by the lovely Dasia Denise, the blog mistress of Gothicsoulflower!
The Liebster award is given to fellow bloggers who have less than 200 followers.

1. Post the award on your blog.
2. Thank the blogger who presented this award and link back to their blog.
3. Write 11 random facts about yourself.
4. Nominate 11 bloggers who you feel deserve this award and who have fewer than 200 followers.
5. Answer 11 questions posted by the presenter and ask your nominees 11 questions.


1) Lis Nathaly from FriendlyFire. A cosplayer and has some really nice outfits
2) Ms. Misantropia - A great blogger! I am surprised she has under 200 followers. Great posts
3) Green Robot Mom - I don't know how many followers she has, I see she won this before but I am a bit biased here! 
4)Lady Nancy from Retro-Electric - Great outfits, fun to read!
5) Yvonne from Wintermoon - Great blog. I think she may have 200 or more followers but am unsure.
6) Hexotica - Great blog. Would love to see her post more articles (hint, hint!)
7) Goth Gardener - fun blog. Go follow her! Dooooo it!
8) Lexington - A fellow goth mom from the UK (again, biased). She is super adorable too!
9) Monster Mary from Mourning Glory Designs - fellow Canadian. Fun blog to read. 
10) Appy from Appy the Gardener - he has some great stories
11) Lucretia's reflection - Seriously? I am surprised she doesn't have 200 followers! Go follow her...Doooo it!


1. I am not a morning person
2. The first pet I ever owned was a budgie who committed suicide by flying into a window
3. The second pet I ever owned after the budgie was a goldfish, which also committed suicide by jumping out of its bowl We woke up the next morning to find it on the floor.
4. Afterwards, I owned a dog which did not commit suicide and lived a long, happy life
5. I am pretty short. I still dangle my legs whenever I ride the bus or the subway!
6. My favourite novel series are the Dragonlance Chronicles
7. I have been wearing glasses since I was 12 years old. Been wearing contacts since I was 16
8. When I was little, I wanted to grow up and be She-Ra  
9. I stopped smoking 7 years ago! 
10. My mind is always in the gutter and I love double entendres!
11. I REALLY, REALLY hate that faerie Navi from The Legend Zelda, Ocarina of Time. In fact, I flipped the bird at it and swore at it at least 10000 times. Later on, I found a glitch in the game where you can get rid of her for good!


1.  When and why did you start blogging?
I started blogging last summer. I was going through some personal issues and instead of being all whiny about them, I decided to blog instead!

2.  With MP3s and internet streaming, do you still buy CDs or DVDs?
I still buy CDs, I mostly buy MP3s though because I believe in supporting the artists, even the really rich and popular ones! I still buy DVDs too.

3.  How would you describe your style of dress?
Corpgoth with a little flair!

4.  What religion or philosophy do you ascribe to?
I don't follow any religion. I am spiritual. I guess you could consider me Pagan if I had to..

5.  What are your favorite TV shows on the air right now?
Doctor Who!
6.  What other hobbies do you participate in, besides blogging?
I write, read, collect Doctor Who stuff, collect knick-knacks (mostly dragons), and I play videogames!

7.  If you participate in the arts, which ones do you participate in?  Are you a hobbyist or a professional?
I don't participate in the arts, although I wouldn't mind being a published author one day

8.  If a movie was being made about your life, which actor/actress would play you?
Good question. I say Angelina Jolie.

9.  Choose one: Coffee or tea?
Ooh hard question. I love coffee first thing in the morning but I love tea in the afternoon.

10.  What colors have you dyed your hair?
Red, purple, pink, blue, green, black. I think I got them all!

11.  Introvert, extrovert, or ambivert?
Definitely an introvert.

THE QUESTIONS FOR MY NOMINEES WILL BE THE SAME QUESTIONS I HAD TO ANSWER!  Meh! She asked some great questions, what can I say?

I just wanted to take a moment to say thanks. I think it was earlier this week reached over 30,000 pageviews. Thank you all for the ride! The past few months of blogging have been a good one. I met so many nice, cool, wonderful people and even made some pretty awesome new friends! Here's to 30k more pageviews and memories!

Friday, April 10, 2015

The invasion of the bomber girl librarian

As per my previous post (scroll down or click here if you haven't seen it already) I ran out of my disposable contacts and had to wear my glasses for most of the week. There was one morning I had a bad hair day. No matter how hard I tried, I just couldn't tame the frizz. My hair looked like something one of my cats coughed up. Realising the style of shirt I was wearing, I decided to pull out my trusty bandanna. Normally, without my glasses, this look doesn't suit me but with the glasses on, I thought it suited me well. I got tons of compliments from coworkers too and one even commented that I look like a "bomber girl" from those wartime posters.

I often make librarian jokes while wearing glasses. In fact, when I first met my husband, I would jokingly pretend to seduce him whenever I removed my contact lenses and put my glasses on. I would tell him how naughty he was for not returning his books on time and how he would need to be severely punished! We have a weird sense of humour. There was one time, just as I was telling him all those silly things with my glasses on, we both heard footsteps coming towards our front door.

This is when the both of us laughed: we realized the windows were wide open and I was talking loudly. My father in law decided to come visit, unannounced but we assumed he had changed his mind. After all, we were pretty sure he overheard me tell my husband all those things. We then saw him slowly walking down the stairs, walking away. He didn't ring the doorbell, didn't leave anything for us, either. Guess he didn't like hearing about "late fees"!

So without further adieu, here's the invasion of the little bomber girl, librarian! Pictures were taken in the spare room, right by the D&D books for extra geek credit.

Next time, maybe I will pretend to be a teacher!

Wednesday, April 8, 2015

Having four eyes

I accidentally forgot that I ran out of disposable contacts and my last pair got worn out. I lost one contact and the other one had a tear in them! While waiting for my new contacts to arrive, I had no choice but to wear my geeky clunky glasses. Don't get me wrong, this was a better alternative to those hipster glasses that invaded the shelves when I got my glasses last year! Besides, I like geeky glasses. If I had my way, I wouldn't wear glasses at all. How I wish I could be able to afford laser eye surgery! My eyesight is really bad. I can't see anything without my glasses or contacts. If I don't put my glasses in the same usual spot before I go to bed, I have such a hard time finding them in the morning! I thought it would be fun to do an outfit post (super comfy casual work outfit) with the librarian look going on. I decided to have my pictures taken in the spare room this time.

Monday, April 6, 2015

The roles we play

 "Sometimes being a bitch is all a woman's got to hold on to." 
- Stephen King, Dolores Claiborne

I don't know about you guys but I am notorious for having issues with other women.

There is always one person and it is usually another woman that tends to dislike me. I never know the reason why and I don't suspect it is something I did that pissed them off either.This has been an issue for a very long time, since I was a little girl.

I spent a good portion of my life trying to think of reasons and made all kinds of assumptions that I did something to piss them off. I remember approaching one of these girls and I was told that I was a bitch. When I asked whether or not I did anything, I would just get the same response: I am just a bitch.  Granted, this happened in High school, a very long time ago, I did spend many years thinking something was wrong with me.

In the end, I just accepted that it really wasn't me that has a problem and I stopped wasting energy on people like that. I know deep down I am a nice person. If people can't tell me directly to my face exactly what their beef with me is, then it really isn't my problem. I stopped caring.

Today, I take it as a compliment. If I am "being a bitch" perhaps it is because I stood up for something I believe in or I asserted my personal boundaries. If that is the case, then I don't see it as being a bitch at all. It always bothers me when I hear someone say something along the lines of: "I was being a bitch because I stood up for myself"

No, honey, you weren't "being a bitch". It is called having self respect. As girls, we were often told to never say no, to be people pleasers, to always be kind, soft and delicate. That is absolute rubbish. We need to stop undermining our own sense of self worth.

If we are not "being a bitch", then we are fighting amongst each other for petty reasons. I hold the firm belief that girls insult each other while real women support each other. I am tired of some hidden competition of who's skinnier, prettier, smarter and whatever lame reason. Why can't we look beyond our waistlines and hold each other up? How are ever going to find equality when we are too busy fighting amongst each other over what we look like? Seriously, this has to stop.

Although I do agree with blaming the media- to a certain extent and I do truly do agree that this does affect our sense of self worth, we also need to start looking at ourselves, not just pointing fingers at something else. The media or the photoshopped images of women on magazine covers are partially to blame. In addition to the media being at fault,  I also think we should start blaming ourselves for the way we behave towards each other. The media doesn't control your reactions, only YOU can have that control. Take back that control. The media may influence the way you perceive things but you are still in control of your thoughts and actions.

Personally, I never encountered this kind of behavior within the subculture, with the exception of elitists. I hope this is the same for you. This is one of the very many reasons why I love being goth; we help each other out. I would also like the point out that the blogging community is also fantastic. Seriously, you guys are awesome!

All our lives we are hearing all these negative ideas about our gender, it is ridiculous. I am tired of being told that I "throw like a girl" or that I "fight like a girl". If we choose, we don't have to be "strong for a girl" but just be really strong instead. We can throw really far and we can fight really well if that is what we choose. Let's stop listening to those silly ideals and prove them wrong! Again, never let anyone undermine who you are.  Be yourself. If you like makeup and being a "girly girl" that is ok. If you are athletic and have no patience for the more conventional female stuff, that is ok too. If you want to do both, why not? Don't let any silly ideals hold you back. It is also the same for guys. While I obviously cannot speak from a guy's point of view, I am sure there are many men out there who are tired of hearing "grow a set" or "be a man".

  Again, thanks to the goth scene, I don't think this is much of an issue either. After all, men wear makeup along with the women!

 So yes dear readers, today's post is a good old fashion rant. I realize I covered many issues in this post but it all leads to one thing in common: we need to stop fighting amongst each other, we need to stop restriction ourselves or each other based on gender. Have you been in a similar situation? Anything I may have missed or you want to add? If so! Please share your thoughts!

Friday, April 3, 2015

30 Day Goth Challenge Days 7-9

Day 7 – Ten of your favourite Goth bands.  

(1) The Sisters Of Mercy
(2) Bauhaus
(3) Blutengel
(4) Siouxsie and The Banshees
(5) The Cure
(6)Sopor Aeternus & The Ensemble of Shadows
(7) Voltaire
(8) The Cruxshadows
(9) Clan of Xymox
(10) Joy Division

Day 8 – What’s your worst and best experience with non-Goths? 

I think I covered that a lot here in this blog. I love getting compliments from non-goths about my look or style. I haven't had too many negative experiences with non-goths. A lot of people didn't approve when I came back after I went normal. I often get gawked at and one elderly lady made the sign of the cross while I was at the playground with my son. 

Day 9 – What genre of music do you dislike?

I dislike rap and hip hop. In fact, most popular music they play on the radio annoys the crap out of me. I also dislike country music. Blech! 

Just a quick thanks to Laura Morrigan for featuring this challenge on her blog, Roses and Vellum. I loved reading her posts so much that I wanted to do them too.

Wednesday, April 1, 2015

April Fool's Day Shenanigans

Normally, I don't play practical jokes, especially on coworkers. Usually at work, I try to keep a distant yet professional image. I have been there for some time now and well, friendships have formed. Some even read this blog and I sort of gotten somewhat personal with some of them.

Today, I made an exception. My health these days has been poor. I have been getting an onset of chronic migraines. It was to the point, I almost went to the ER on Monday. Today, so far, has been a migraine free day. I am enjoying every pain free minute of it, which means, my lust for life has increased. Luckily for me, chocolate is not a migraine trigger so when two coworkers both offered me a chocolate bar, I was in heaven. I now have two new best friends and each of them got a hug from me. In case you haven't noticed,  I love chocolate!

I did also have some candy earlier today (again, making up for lost time) but towards the end of the afternoon, the chocolate was calling my name. I ate an entire chocolate bar in one sitting. I know it is loaded in calories but I don't care. It is chocolate and it is ALL mine!

Disclaimer: I know this clip may seem irrelevant to this post. My son is a huge Scooby Doo fan and my husband got a smug look on his face while watching this episode with him. This is pretty much how I am with chocolate, hope it makes you laugh!

Naturally, I was hyped up on sugar. I got this brilliant idea to prank my coworkers. I am not a sneaky person. I am not a good liar or good at doing anything that I am not supposed to be doing. I am like a kid, I get all giggly and anxious. Despite my lack of transparency, I managed to prank not one, not two, but three coworkers. It was quite simple. I wrote "April Fools" on a little yellow sticky note and put it underneath their computer mouse, right over the laser. When they go to use their mouse, it won't work!

I know it isn't a huge prank or anything but this was a huge accomplishment for me! One coworker knew I was up to something because I kept walking by his desk, giggling and smiling like a fool. They all appeared to be surprised when they discovered I was the culprit. 

I am sort of dreading going to work tomorrow, I am sure one of them will find a way to get back at me. If it does happen, I will be sure to keep you informed, if you choose.

I know this isn't much of a "goth related" or corp goth sort of post but I hope you were amused. Never fret dear readers, we will get back to our regular scheduled darkness filled  program shortly.


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